Yoga Styles Explained

All styles of yoga are fantastic, but the variety can be overwhelming. It can be a challenge to navigate the seemingly endless variety of yoga styles because each teacher has their own interpretation of what it all means. The choice can be overwhelming. Which style of yoga is right for you? If you “tried yoga once and didn’t like it” or think you’re “too stiff for yoga”, how do you find something that suits your needs? Maybe you’ve been loyal to one style or teacher, but is there any benefit to adding some variety? The following is a guide to a few of the basic styles of yoga.

Hatha

The sanskrit word Hatha is translated as “forceful”. This differentiates Hatha yoga from meditation because there are physical shapes (asana) involved as opposed to the more subtle practice of seated meditation.

Others say that “ha” describes the sun and “the” refers to the moon. With the word yoga being translated as “yoke”, some say that hatha yoga is yoga that strives to balance these energies.

If it seems like I just described all physical forms of yoga, that is correct. Vinyasa, Power, Iyengar and Ashtanga some of the seemingly endless types of hatha yoga.

Generally when a class is described as Hatha yoga, it is usually practiced in a non heated room and is has an emphasis on holding poses while maintaining an awareness of breath and/or alignment. Hatha yoga is usually designed to improve strength, flexibility, and brings a state of calm. Hatha classes may include some sun salutations and the same postures as other styles, but they are generally not linked together with the breath. Generally, hatha yoga is great for beginners. Due to the wide variety of “hatha” yoga, every studio and teacher is a little bit different.

Iyengar

Based on the teachings of BKS Iyengar, this style of hatha yoga is focused on precise alignment. It uses props to maintain structural integrity in yoga poses. Expect long holds that focus on the details of how the body physically takes up space. The practice improves strength, stability, flexibility, physical and mental awareness.

Vinyasa

Vinyasa is a type of hatha or physical yoga practice. The sanskrit word vinyasa can be translated as “to place in a special way”. Vinyasa is a style of yoga that provides more flow or movement than hatha yoga, and can be practiced at a slow or rapid pace. Vinyasa yoga can be practiced in heated or non heated rooms, but always strives to align movements of the body with the breath. This link can make it easier to reach a quiet, inward focus, while challenging strength and flexibility.

Vinyasa classes are not sent to any specific sequence. Poses are practiced in an order set by the teacher based on the physical experience and mood they wish to create. Classes often include music.

Power

Power yoga is a style of Vinyasa yoga. It is practiced in a heated room at a pace that is rapid enough to be considered a workout. It challenges endurance, stamina, strength and will make you sweat. The sequences can be set by individual instructors or by individual studios. There is frequently a theme about building heat, pushing to the edge of your boundaries and expanding what you thought was possible. Power yoga often includes ab exercises and balance work. Like all yoga, it includes a restful time laying down at the end of class.

Yoga Wall (or rope wall)

The original rope wall was designed by BKS Iyengar. The yoga wall is a tool that is used to aid us in postures during the practice of hatha yoga. Expect to use the ropes and the wall itself to experience yoga poses in a new way. While classes may still include breathing exercises, this style has little to no flow. The focus may include alignment, strength and/or restoring spinal length. I find that many students with spinal problems like kyphosis, scoliosis and those who receive regular chiropractic care report many benefits of practicing on the yoga wall. The practice is well suited to beginners and seasoned practitioners. Classes are limited to the number of spaces available, so you may receive a bit more individualized attention.

Restorative

Restorative yoga balances a busy mind and body through rest. Restorative yoga teachers place students in restful poses that do not include standing. Expect to use bolsters (pillows), blankets, blocks and sandbags to purposefully ease your body into a state of rest and renewal. Poses are held for several minutes.

This is in now way a complete list, and I’d invite everyone to try something new. I have tried more styles of yoga with more teachers than I can count, and I have always benefited from the practice.

If you’re in the Lancaster/Berks/Lebanon PA area, feel free to contact me with questions on how to set up private individual or group sessions.

Ayurveda for Insomnia

The holidays are a busy time of year. For a lot of us, that means going to bed with a mind that won’t rest. Others fall asleep but wake up with racing thoughts after 2 am. This time of year, that racing mind often has the qualities of the season (vata dosha = air and space). Vata can be described as cold, light, dry, irregular, rough, moving, quick & changeable. Ayurveda teaches that when we incorporate the opposites into our lives, we begin to discover balance.

Routine

1. Avoid electronics 2 hours before bedtime and opt for quiet time reading or meditating. Electronics have many of the qualities that we are trying to avoid (moving, quick, changeable, light). If you have a partner that can’t live without their bedtime screen time, I recommend sleeping with a mask to allow you to block it out.

2. Try warm spiced milk, oat milk or almond milk before bedtime. Nutmeg, cinnamon, cloves and maple syrup or honey can make milk a delicious treat. Ghee is normally recommended (in a different amount than the honey), but if you avoid dairy like me, go ahead and leave it out.

3. Use oil to massage your feet and scalp before bedtime. I recommend a warming oil light sesame (un toasted please). Wear a thick pair of socks to protect your bedding.

4. Take the time to soak in a warm, leisurely bath. Opt for salts and soothing essential oils like lavender to make the experience that much better.

Diet

1. Eat your main meal at noon and avoid eating 2 hours before bedtime. Your digestive fire is strongest in the middle of the day, and your evening meal (supper) is a supplement to the rest of your diet.

2. Choose well-cooked foods like soups and stews - you will have a more comfortable belly if you eat things that are easy to digest.

3. Favor whole foods with and emphasis on naturally occurring seasonal sweet foods like squash and sweet potatoes.

4. Watch out for alcohol and caffeine because of their drying qualities (not good for vata dosha).

Mindfulness

1. Lull yourself to sleep by taking a few of your favorite restorative yoga poses. Legs up the wall is easy and helps settle the mind and body. It is just as easy as it sounds, you literally lay near a wall and rest your legs on the wall while laying on the ground.

2. Try a guided mediation or yoga nidra. I like to recommend the insight timer app, but I also have a 12 minute loving kindness available here.

3. Spend time journaling, with a focus on gratitude.

4. Say a prayer or connect with something greater than yourself

Breath (pranayama)

1. Belly breathing - while laying in bed, place your hands below your navel. Allow your awareness to be drawn to the natural movements in this area as you breathe. Notice that the heavier you let your body feel, the easier this awareness becomes.

2. Left nostril breathing - use your right hand to close off the right side of your nose, and take normal, steady breaths through your left nostril. The left side is associated with calming lunar energy. Take the time to feel the way the breath travels through your system.

Rather than trying all of these items at once (you’ll never know what actually works the best), I recommend experimenting with one or two of your favorites, and finding the routine that works the best for your mind/body. No two people are exactly the same & we all have different needs.

List your favorite ways to support sleep in the comments section, and have a great night’s sleep. Want personalized help with your wellness? I have 3 and 6 month ayurvedic wellness coaching packages available for purchase. E-mail me at bethmartinyoga@yahoo.com for an informative & free 30 minute consultation.

The True Yoga Path

Which is really the correct path?  What is the "real" yoga?  Yoga has become big business.  In effort to attract students, instructors and studios turn to marketing strategies that highlight what we do best.  Industries attempt to design and market products that will appeal to a specific demographic.  This may seem like good business, but does it threaten the heart of what the practice is all about?  

The word "yoga" comes from the Sanskrit root yuj, which means "to join" or "to yoke".  Could our efforts to set ourselves apart threaten the core of our practice?  Whenever we try to make hard and fast rules, it tears us apart.  Yoga is not only fancy poses, nor is it the lack of fancy poses.  Yoga is not only in heat, nor is it the lack of heat.  Yoga is not only for flexible, inflexible, male, female, gay, straight, overweight, thin, athletic, young or old.  Different practices and teachers will appeal to different people, so isn't it great that there are so many to choose from?

Although there are several different paths, they all come from the same origin.  Power yoga has it's roots in ashtanga yoga, as taught by Pattabhi Jois.  Alignment based yoga and the use of props takes inspiration from BKS Iyengar.  That's without even getting into the fusions like alignment based vinyasa.  There are many different styles, but were you aware that many came from the same lineage?  BKS Iyengar and Pattabhi Jois shared the same teacher, Master Krischnamaycharya.    

If you are a dedicated yogi or a teacher, I am sure that you are inspired by your practice, style, and teachers and want to share it with others.  Please be sure to support all yoga in your written and verbal communication.  I have only taken one Bikram class ever, but am happy to recommend a nice studio in the area if that's what you're trying to find.  I love my teachers, my studios, my students and my community, but I will not say that my training or style is any more valuable than someone else's.  

We are all on a path searching for the same thing, and the path is ever evolving.  I hope to be practicing when I'm 103.  That's 60 years from now, so while my yoga may not look, feel or sound the same, that does not make it any more or less valuable than what I am doing today.  

Don't get me wrong, I am very passionate about what I do, and would love to introduce you to my classes either on the mat or on the Yoga Wall.  I have seen many people benefit from my classes.  I have benefited from different teachings at various times in my life, so if you're looking for something else, I'll try to help you find that too.

Try various types of yoga and share ideas with several different yogis.  Make each practice your own, and I will do the same.  Above all else, find the union.  We are more alike than we are different.

Calm in a Troubled World

There is a lot going on in our nation and in the world.  I have been silent and contemplative, trying to take it all in.  I have noticed repeatedly that there is distress and unhappiness regardless of which candidate each of us supported on election day.  I have looked to the practices of yoga, mantra and meditation for support.  Many of us have either stopped looking on social media or have blocked posts from one or both sides.  If you have not noticed, ignoring the unease does not make it go away.  We will all have strong feelings, and many times find ourselves in opposition with those around us.  We cannot change this fact.

“My religion teaches me that whenever there is distress which one cannot remove, one must fast and pray. ” — Gandhi

I come from a line of very spiritual people.  My grandfather was a Baptist Missionary in Africa and Pastor in Maine.  When I read this quote from Gandhi, I was struck by the similarity between their approaches.  I honestly think it would have shocked my grandfather too!  When my grandfather was in distress, he would skip meals, go to his study.  He would spend the time in prayer, reading spiritual books and studying the Bible.  We lived with my grandparents when I was at the impressionable age of 13, and at the time he faced the fact that Parkinson's Disease was robbing him of physical strength and abilities.  He responded by taking frequent time in deep reflection.  The message was clear, "Grandpa is having a hard time with xxx so he is fasting today".  He had a very strong will, and I rarely saw the softer side of him.  The fact that I can look back as an adult and realize the strikingly similar approaches makes me smile.  The more we are different, the more we are the same.

This post is not another political post that is attempting to tell you what to believe.  Notice what makes you feel grounded and brings you peace, and make regular time for those practices.  Get very clear so that you can respond with integrity rather than have an automatic reaction.  I know that I usually end up regretting those darn automatic reactions!     

We must always find a way to back to the calm within the storm.  When we experience the calm, we can be of better service to our core beliefs.  We can come from our true nature rather than a place of fear or anger.  We can better serve the things that really matter to us!    

In addition to my regular yoga and meditation practice, I have found Metta or Loving Kindness Meditation to be extremely helpful.  You can practice this seated or even silently send these well wishes to everyone you pass during your day and notice how you feel.  I wish you happiness, health, peace and freedom from suffering.  Namaste.

Seeking Harmony

I have officially experienced the post election blues.  It has much more to do with the disconnect that I see and feel from humanity than who won and who lost.  After a lifetime of avoiding expressing and feeling my own emotions, I have to say that sometimes this feeling stuff really sucks.  I am feeling my own sadness and the heaviness of the emotions in those around me.  Last evening I sat with myself, and I cried deeply.  The division I see in our nation is so profound.  This division impacts people of other races, religious beliefs, the LGBTQ community and their families. 

 Sometimes, you really have to feel something before you can move past it.  Luckily, my amazing friends at Create Karma and I have been sharing a path of healing and acceptance during the past year.  They have taught me to open my heart, and hopefully I have led them through some healing as well.  I love them deeply.  I have felt my feelings,  and I am ready to move forward and take action as a leader for the wellness of our community and our nation.   

 This week I taught yoga classes encouraging my students to find a place of refuge in their own breath.  I struggled to take my own advice, so I made a cup of my favorite tea, and found inspiration through reading.  This gem of a quote had the greatest impact, so this is where I start moving forward. 

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” — Mahatma Gandhi

Now I choose to practice finding this harmony, happiness and balance through the Yamas and Niyamas (10 principles of living) of yoga.  If you have felt the feelings that you need to feel and are ready to move take positive action moving forward, here are the steps that I plan to take. 

1. Ahimsa: compassion for all living things - I turn to a quote from Charlotte Bell. "My favorite description of ahimsa is of a dynamic peacefulness prepared to meet all needs with loving openness." I feel compassion for all beings who are being hurt or oppressed. This extends to my vegan diet. I am not apologetic, but maybe in order to be more balanced, I need to find actions that express loving openness rather than dwelling on sad or painful things.

2. Satya: commitment to the truth - Sometimes I have tended to hide my beliefs when they don't parallel those who I am around. It may feel easier for me that way, but it is a form of deceit. So to all those hospital employees who may be reading this, I voted for Clinton this year. There, I said it. I don't agree with her entire platform, but my personal beliefs are closer in line with hers than with Trump. Truthfulness - check.

3. Asteya: non-stealing - It may seem easy to think, I don't steal. Can we look a little deeper? The times that I choose to remain silent and don't stand up when #1 is being violated, I am stealing support from those who may desperately need it. Am I focusing on the news too much and stealing my attention from work that will be for a greater good?

4. Brahmacharya: non-excess - To me, this really has to do with how you use your energy. I choose to spend my energy in a constructive manner by avoiding too much time dwelling on things I cannot change, yet knowing when to use my voice. I will practice experiencing the difference.

5. Aparigraha: non-grasping - I will practice giving things to others as a sign of compassion. This may be expressed in a note or through baking. It will definitely be expressed through my financial and active work with Create Karma during this year's Extraordinary Give on November 18!

6. Saucha: purity - I will choose to keep my mind pure by increasing the time I spend in meditation and physical yoga practice. This can also be practiced through prayer and/or the study of religious text. I will take meditation breaks instead of coffee breaks. I will wear a mala as a sign of this commitment.

7. Santosha: contentment - I will continue to offer teachings of love, healing and balance. I understand that others will choose to express their voice in a different way. We are a free world and they are free to do as they wish. I am content with the fact that it is not my job to fix anything for others. Everyone has their own path.

8. Tapas: right effort - Now is the time to not only seek knowledge and beginning to apply what I have learned. Break old habits and find a way to make our lives and this world a better place. Keep zeal and enthusiasm for the things that I really believe in and place my attention there.

9. Svadhyaya: self study - I have had tremendous success in self study by becoming aware of my habitual patterns and beliefs. Sometimes that little voice in your head isn't our own voice or even the right thing to listen to (it may just be a little bad habit that you've picked up along the way). Sometimes my old habits seem like old friends, but they are not. It is important to find your true nature so that you can begin to break these old habits. This aspect of the path has given me the gift of the biggest heart opening, and I can't wait to see what else is in store! Study of religious text would also apply to this category.

10. Ishvara Pranidhana: dedication to the highest (God) - Yoga does not tell us how to define God. That is very personal. Anyone with strong religious convictions should cling to them. Otherwise, how do you connect with the divine? You could connect with this through time in nature or by looking for the highest expression of goodness in every situation.

The funny thing is that just taking the time to write these words and dwell on these steps has me feeling better about everything.  Now is the time to put my yoga practice into action.  I call for you to join me in taking all or some of these steps.  We can make our world a better place.  

Path to a Personal Yoga Practice

I have a confession to make, despite 17 years of faithful yoga practice/study, and 4.5 years of teaching yoga, finding regular time for my personal practice was still a challenge.  I have tried practicing on my own with limited success, via class streaming on  YogaGlo and was quite judgemental with myself when I failed to meet the goals that I set for myself. 

I started participating in Instagram Yoga Challenges, and saw both regularity of practice and physical achievement in poses that I usually stay away from.  The chance to be listed as a winner seemed to ignite the fire to get up early enough to practice every day.  There was one problem with this.  The gains were physical, but the soul had left my practice.  I am reminded of a verse from the Bible that I had memorized as a child. 

 For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?  - Mark 8:36 KJV

It didn't really matter if I could stand on my hands or do a big backbend if the spirit and the true feeling of what brought me to yoga was gone.  The pose is not the goal of yoga!  I was practicing daily, but for the wrong reasons.

Setting out to find the soul of my yoga practice involved establishing a regular routine, finding discipline, and being honest about my intentions.  I no longer have to look good for my morning practice.  I am enjoying the liberty of establishing a routine that works for me.  The first step was loss of the daily instagram post, which gave me the freedom to come to that mat just as I was in the moment (it also saves the time of getting changed).  I usually get out of bed, feed my pets, drink warm lime water, and practice in my pajamas.  This has given me the freedom to take more time for the practice itself and find balance every day.   

My second step was the loss of my yoga class streaming.  I'm not saying that this step is for everyone, but I needed to find balance by loss of external focus.  I spent less time choosing the day's practice, and more time in actual practice.  I am able to customize my practice based on my daily schedule.  I lost the external focus, and regained a little more soul in my yoga practice.  Putting the soul back in my yoga has influenced the way I feel off the mat, my interactions with my family & friends, and brought authentic inspiration to the way I teach.  Sound good?  Here are a few steps to get you started...

1. Timing - set a regular time & routine every day. Hold yourself accountable, but allow for variation depending on what else is going on in your life. Your practice should be a haven, not an obligation. A goal of early morning practice 5-7 days a week works for me.

2. Breath (pranayama) - If you are practicing early in the morning, it is a good idea to do a type of breathwork that will give you energy. I've been working with Kapalabhati or Skull Shining Breath. Here are some instructions if you're new to the practice.

3. Meditation - This may feel more natural either here or after your asana (pose) practice. Feel free to experiment to find out what works for you. I prefer to do a round or two on my mala beads, then sit in stillness for the rest of my meditation, but there are several ways to learn how to meditate. Subscribe to my blog, and you won't miss the guided meditation I've been working on!

4. Yoga Poses (asana) - I find that an established routine with opportunity for variety works well for me. Established students or teachers can develop a practice of their own. I suggest new students establish a practice with a local teacher (see my schedule for information on group or private instruction). If you're interested in online offerings, comment on this blog and let me know what you're looking for. I love to meet the needs of my online community!

5. Savasana - include some time in rest before taking on the rest of your day!

6. Reading/Study - You may choose to read a religious text, or study some yoga text.  The choice is yours.  Meditations from the Mat is a good choice, and an easy read.  It includes 365 brief one page reflections, that I have used as an intro to several of my yoga classes.  Some of my other favorites iinclude Light on Life,  Eastern Body Western Mind, Yoga Sutras and A Spiritual Rennegade's guide to the Good Life.   Check out the Facebook Yoga Book Club that a friend & I started if you want somewhere to discuss yoga texts & find inspiration.

Just yesterday, I had a discussion with a friend who is nearing the end of teacher training.  She had recently come to the conclusion that yoga was much more than where you put your hand, foot or tailbone - YES!!!  Your yoga practice can be about turning inward, how your practice makes you feel, finding balance. You can choose to take your practice into every part of your day.  You may or may not be able to hold fancy poses or teach large groups, but please find and keep the heart and soul of your practice.  The true power of our yoga practice lies within.

Namaste - Beth

Spring Cleaning for Mental Clutter

Society values multi tasking and efficiency.  These skills are considered necessary for companies to thrive in today's competitive marketplace.  We now talk on the phone or listen to a book while going about our daily tasks.  Always on the go, time is a commodity.  The more we can accomplish in a shorter amount of time, the better ... or is it?   There is certainly a time and place for these efforts, but sometimes it can be a bit too much.  We may find ourselves with a bit of mental clutter.  Here are my 3 simple steps to begin mentally decluttering.  

1. Slow Down - It is important to schedule some time to slow down, quiet your mind, and restore.  For a healthy way to slow down, I prefer yoga and meditation.  Other helpful practices include walking in nature, playing music, praying, journaling, or reading spiritual books.  It is important to schedule this time, and make it a priority.  If you regularly take the time to slow down, you will be able to access the skill when it is necessary in steps 2 & 3.   

2. Listen - Dictionary.com defines listen as  "to give attention with the ear; attend closely for the purpose of hearing".  We must first practice listening to ourselves before we can ever truly listen to others.  Begin to become more sensitive to your gut instincts and physical cues that your body uses to communicate with you (tight shoulders, breath changes, etc).  Ask yourself what story is behind a particular feeling or instinct.  Use your practice of slowing down from step 1 to become a better listener.  We must be able to refine the art of internal listening if we ever want to be able to truly listen to others.

3. Trust - It is impossible to slow down and listen without the element of trust.  Stop any urges to judge what your are hearing, how well your meditation is going, what you should be doing instead.  If you are practicing listening to yourself, give yourself permission to trust your instincts.  If you are practicing listening to others, fight the urge to solve their problems or judge what they are saying.  Less judgement and more trust will help free you from unnecessary mental clutter.

These are skills that I am beginning to refine after 16 years of yoga practice.  When I am able to get it right, I can feel a physical sense of lightness in my body and focus in my mind.  Notice the physical feelings that you have when you are actively listening to yourself.  Take that practice, and use it when you are interacting with others.  The ability to clear out enough mental clutter to slow down, truly listen, and trust ourselves and others is a highly rewarding practice that is well worth the effort.

Namaste - Beth

10 Practices for Stress Management

Ahimsa is the yogic principle of non harming.  According to the American Psychological Association's 2014 stress report, women "consistently report high levels of overall stress and unhealthy behaviors to manage stress".  Gender aside, all stress has a negative impact on the wellbeing of our society.  Our solutions to manage stress (unhealthy food, alcoholic beverages, cigarettes, drugs, etc) are not the best things for our health, and may cause additional harm.

We can look to yogic, mindfulness and wellness practices for healthier (non harming) ways to manage stress, anxiety and insomnia.  Some of them may even change the way you view situations that you used to find stressful.  Here are a few ideas.

1. Yoga Practice - if you're not already a yogi, now is  a great time to start.  If you're already a regular yoga practicioner, maybe try changing things up by practicing a different style or a new studio.  Practices like Restorative Yoga, Yin Yoga, and Yoga Nidra are very relaxing and good for all levels.  For more physical work, Iyengar and alignment oriented class are structurally oriented, while Vinyasa and Prana Flow classes generally offer more movement.  Try a new class, teacher, video or studio to shake things up.
2. Breathwork - Yogic breathwork  (pranayama) is a great way to manage stress.  Try one of my classes if you're in the area (we practice a bit of breathwork in every class).  Otherwise, you may want to experiment with a practice such as Alternate Nostril Breath or simply lengthen your exhales.  Sit or lay comfortably, close your eyes, and count the length of your inhales.  As a goal, you could try to make your exhale twice as long as your inhale.  When your mind wanders, bring your attention back to the breath.
3. Essential Oils - Essential oils can change your mood.  Lavender is especially relaxing, and mint or orange scents are uplifting.  You can diffuse them, wear them in a carrier oil such as fractionated coconut oil, or put a few drops in your bath or on your pillow.  I prefer to use 100% pure essential oils.
4. Eye Pillow - Laying down (on your back or with your legs propped against the wall) with an eye pillow can be one of the best ways to restore a calm, relaxed mood.  Using and eye pillow is said to stimulate the vagus nerve (the body's rest & digest response).  
5. Hot Tea - There are many delicious types of tea to choose from.  Herbal teas such as camomile tea may be a good choice, but I find that taking the time to sit and relax with a glass of tea melts away my stress.  You may choose to relax with a friend, or enjoy a quiet cup with a view of nature.
6. Hot Bath - I find a hot bath to be a particularly enjoyable way to relax when I'm feeling anxious.  You can use oils, candles, and/or music to set a spa like atmosphere.  
7. Time in Nature - Enjoy some peace, quiet, and get some vitamin D!  Being outside (particularly in a quiet place like a park or garden) can do amazing things for your mood.  I like a hike in nature, but a walk in our local park will fit the bill when I'm short on time.  
8. Journaling - Keeping a journal can be a particularly useful practice.  You may choose to journal about gratitude, your emotions, or focus on positive aspects of each day.  Even this blog has been a way for me to practice a form of journaling.
9. Mantra Meditation - Reciting a mantra every day can be a great way to focus on the things that matter the most to you.  It can be a personal statement or prayer, or a traditional mantra in sanskrit.  Since my trip to Nepal in 2015, the mantra Om Mani Padme Hum has been special to me.  Here is a link to a video of the mantra.  I like to use mala beads to keep track of my practice, but that is optional.
10. Music Therapy - You know the music that changes your mood.  It may be a pop song that you like to sing along or it may be quiet background music that you'd find in a spa.  You may perfer to play the music yourself, or listen to someone else's music.  Whatever the case may be, recognize the way different types of music make you feel, and focus on music when your mood needs a boost.  

How do you choose to manage your stress?  Could any of these practices help you find stress relief with a focus on Ahimsa (non harming)?    Stress is not necessary, you have the tools to avoid it!  As you yoga and mindful practices help you find stress relief, maybe you can choose to find a little less stress in your life in general.  If these practices are not helping to manage your stress, anxiety, or insomnia, please consult your physician.

Namaste - Beth

The Beauty of Now

How often do we judge our limitations (or abilities) based on past experience?  How much time do we spend on plans or worries about the future?  Below, I'm sharing a quote really hit home for me.  One of the most importance aspects of our yoga & meditation practice is to bring ourselves out of the stories that we have created about the past and future.  Learning to enjoy the present moment can change our current lives for the better, and make space for a more promising future.

“Your body exists in the past and your mind exists in the future. In yoga, they come together in the present.”

— BKS Iyengar

In my teens and early 20's I used to get to the now by running.  Putting one foot in front of the other allowed me to find space between my thoughts.  A little later I found the same feeling in a sweaty vinyasa class, then in the stillness of an alignment based hatha class, and finally in meditation.  Finding the present moment started out during and at the end of my runs.  It always took at least 2 miles to get into that good space in my head, I was no longer in the past or the future, I was simply putting one foot in front of the other.  As a sweaty post run mess laying on the floor, I found space between my thoughts.  This may have been my first taste of savasana (the resting pose at the end of a yoga class).

Take the time to notice and experience the beauty of now in your yoga (or meditation) practice.  On and off the mat, releasing expectations based on past performance or idealistic future goals can rob you of simple joys.  Maybe your ______ isn't perfect (home, job, pose, body), but is there really any such thing?  Can you make a promise to stop labeling things?  Is it possible to dwell on the good things that you'd like to celebrate rather than the things that used to be, or the things that you wish were different?  

Maybe you can even expand that idea to those around you.  You can start by finding common ground with those you interact with on a daily basis.  Take a moment to smile at a stranger, make small talk with the barista at the coffee shop, leave a special (anonymous) treat for a coworker who needs a mood boost.  Just imagine how wonderful it would be if you could see the beauty in everyone that you meet.  Wouldn't your attitude shape your entire world?

Your body exists in the past, your mind exists in the future, but isn't the now wide open to possibilities?  Expand rather than contract, smile rather than worry, seek a balance between comfort and effort.  Find the beauty of now, and the next now, and the next now... the now really can be wonderful!

Namaste - Beth

Being vs Becoming

So many of set goals, put steps in place to reach our goals, and then allow ourselves to be distracted and move off course.  Regardless of the type of goals you have set (spiritual, career/ education, health/weight loss, completing a task, finishing a project, mastering a pose,) they all require zealous effort, in each and every moment, as each of a series of transformations take place.   

“Being is not static, but like the heating water... it is a moment in present time, in a certain state or condition, and from which, if we continue to add the flame of zealous practice, like a Bunsen burner under a retort, suddenly another state will emerge, as if by magical transformation. We perceive only the sequence of these transformations in time, which is why we are caught in the illusion of becoming, instead of just being, and then being again, and being again, separately but transformatively, ad infinitum, like the stills of an old silent film, until the story reaches its conclusion and, hopefully, its happy ending.” — Light on Life by BKS Iyengar

In a recent blog and video for business owners, my friend Mike spoke about the results of taking 31 days of purposeful action.  Much like Iyengar, he speaks about the results he received when he spent 31 days making consistent efforts to reach his goals.  At the end of the month, the several small transformations, a result of steady effort, lead to a big result.

I'm approaching another birthday, and the whole world seems to be reminding me to start being, and stop worrying about becoming.  With that in mind,  I will rededicate myself to my practice with zeal and enthusiasm.   Here are the daily steps that I plan to take during February 2016 and beyond.

1. Being a daily meditator (this has been a life changer for me)

2. Being a person who practices self care (increased daily water, walking, healthy choices)

3. Being a yogi who spends time in asana (poses), reading yoga texts, or writing daily

By being a person who practices these steps daily, little transformations may feel like something big by the end of the month.  The zeal and momentum must continue to make a transformation rather than temporary changes.  

What goals  have you been meaning to reach?  What do you need to start being?  Transformation takes steady zeal and effort, but it is well worth the time invested.  Stop becoming and start being, and being again, and being again...

Namaste - Beth

Yoga and Facing Challenges

4 years ago I was a brand new yoga teacher.  CC was my most loyal student at our local studio(not her real name).  She was attentive, dedicated, and sweet.  One day, when I cued "crow pose" (an arm balance), she seemed uncharacteristically negative about the pose.  That day I promised her that we would keep trying and "one day we will get you in that pose".  I didn't have enough experience to make such a promise, and I didn't even know my own limitations at the time.  She seemed satisfied with my response, and we moved on.  Every time I cued crow over the next 4 years, CC would attempt the pose, fall, smile, and move on with her practice without missing a beat.  During a recent large class, and CC had her normal place in the back row.  I cued crow, offering a few modifications, and began to assist the newer students.  I heard a sound from the back row, and looked back to find CC grinning.  She mouthed "I did it".  How very cool to see her accomplish her goal.  Just like any other week, she quickly returned to her practice.

Anyone who has been practicing yoga long enough has had some of these experiences.  One of the things that I love about yoga, is it's lessons that apply to daily life.  I find it so inspirational to be able to watch students working on their practices, accomplishing goals, and doing so with love and grace.  How often are we reluctant to start something for fear of failure?  How often do we have a bad attitude when things don't go our way?  Here are a few ways to face your daily life like you do your yoga practice.

1. Try things that scare you, or seem just out of reach. You can do more than you know.

2. Face the task with a sense of humor. Nobody is perfect at everything, so don't expect yourself to be perfect either.

3. If you fail, move on graciously. There's always next time.

4. Keep with it. Dedication is the key to reaching your goals.

5. Believe in yourself. Starting something with the idea that you can't do it is like praying for something that you don't want to happen.

6. Encourage others. There is strength in numbers, so seek out other people with the same interests and/or goals.

Just yesterday I had my own accomplishment of the seemingly impossible task, the ellusive Firefly Pose.  This had seemed impossible for years, and I deemed it because of my "tight hamstrings".  Well, something snapped when I saw CC reach her goal.  I tried Firefly with a fresh attitude.  I saw possibilities rather than limitations, and you know what?  My Firefly got off the ground.  What is your Firefly?  What are you ready to tackle on or off the mat?

Namaste - Beth

New Year Mindfulness

As we leave 2015 behind and enter 2016, many people will be creating New Year's Resolutions, things they intend to accomplish within the next year.  I am not against setting intentionsor starting new projects, but I'm not writing another blog about resolutions either.

So much of our time is spent dwelling in the past, or worrying about/planning for the future.  Why not take some time to be mindful, and just "be here now"?  Unsure how to even start living in the present moment?  Here are a few ideas to get you started.  

1. Put your phone/ipad/laptop down! How can you be in the present moment if you are busy becoming of one mind with an electronic device?

2. Find a quiet space and close your eyes. Listen to the sound of your breath, try to feel the thumping of your beating heart.

3. Try some yogic breath work (pranayama). My students are exposed to this during each and every class and their current favorite for stress relief is alternate nostril breath. I'm including a video link to the right.

4. Take a walk in nature. Smell the smells outside, listen to the sound of the wind blowing or the stream moving. Feel the fresh air on your face.

5. Quietly enjoy a cup of hot tea. Don't do anything but experience the smells, taste, and temperature of the tea.

6. Warm up with a quiet, hot bath or spend some time in front of a cozy fire.

7. Join a meditation group.

Now I will head out to gather food to mindfully prepare dinner.  How can you fit a little more mindfulness into your life?  How can you "be here now"?

Namaste - Beth

Attentive Practices to Beat Stress

A moment of truth as I deal with my own stress.  After writing this entire post on dealing with holiday stress, I accidentally deleted it without saving, and had to start over.  Now I'll be taking some of my own advice, taking a deep breath, and enjoying a cup of hot tea while I rewrite this blog post in an attentive manner.

When our busy holiday schedules get the best of us, sometimes we miss out on all the great little moments.  Much like our yoga practice, there is no such thing as a perfect holiday, although that is often our goal.  Mindful practices can help reduce stress levels and allow us to enjoy our experiences more fully.

I'll list several practices to try.  Find the ones that appeal to you, and put them into practice when you're letting life's stressors get in your way.  Your nervous system will thank you.

Breathe

1. The yogic practice of attentive breathing is a proven method to calm the nervous system.  Begin by noticing the length of your inhale, then try to extend your exhale to twice the length of the inhale.  Over time, if the length of your inhale naturally lengthens as you calm down, you can respond by lengthening your exhale even more.  
2. Aromatherapy is a great way to relax.  Essential oils like lavender can be used in body products, diffused into the air, or added to hot baths.  I have been known to put a drop on a surgical mask when I'm working in a stressful surgical case during my day job in cardiology.

Move

1. Take a long walk, preferably outdoors.  Put your phone away, and really stay in the moment.  Practice hearing the rhythm of your footsteps and breath, noticing the sights, sounds and smells around you, and put your to do list away.  Take the time to be mindful as you walk.
2. Yoga is an obvious choice as a way to move mindfully.  You may be able to take a full class at your favorite studo.  If not, consider a home practice.  That may mean a few of your favorite poses, or sun salutations on your own, or you can search You Tube for a free class that meets your needs.
3. Tai Chi and Chi Gong are great gentle ways to learn mindful movement.  I advise seeking out an instructor or class if this practice interests you.

Stillness

1. Meditation is a great way to focus inward and reduce stress.  Medical studies have shown changes in the brain structure of meditators with as little as 20 minutes of daily practice.  Some of my favorite people are regular meditators!  Tara Brach has many great meditations that are available for free online, and it's a great place to start.

2. Mantra is another way to find attentive stillness.  You may choose a phrase that means something to you or try a more traditional mantra.  I'm a fan of Om Mani Padme Hum, in the Tabetan Buddhist tradition.  So Hum (I am) is another common mantra.  Simply think or say so with the inhale, and hum with the exhale. 

3. Restorative yoga is a great way to relax.  Classes are available in studios and online.  Legs up the Wall is a great restorative pose that can be practiced in just a few minutes.  It is practiced by quite literally laying with your legs resting up against a wall as shown here.

Taste

1. Enjoy a nice glass of tea.  This has been a favorite method of stress relief my entire life.  While in Nepal, tea was regularly offered when we entered people's homes.  I love this tradition!  Don't multitask or pay bills while enjoying your tea, although a nice conversation with a friend or family member is encouraged.

2. My 95+ year old grandmother and 13 year old son agree that a very small piece of dark chocolate is something to be savored and enjoyed.  Rather than diving into your child's halloween stash of candy, try allowing yourself to take a moment to really experience a small amount of your favorite treat.  No guilt allowed.

If you already practice mindfulness, be sure to keep it up during the holiday season.  If you don't, or if you're looking for something new, try a few of the practices on this list.  Notice how you feel, and enjoy a stress free life during the holidays and into the New Year.

Namaste - Beth

Lessons From Nepal #2 - Daily Practice

My Yoga Practice in Pokhara, Nepal.

Here at home, I frequently hear the yoga community speaking about a goal of daily yoga practice.  There are yoga challenges set up to encourage us to practice yoga poses every day.  We may speak about getting our "yoga practice in", meaning exercise, and something to do and help us with the rest of our day.  Yes, physical exercise and yoga postures are important, but isn't there more?

I observed several friends in Nepal practicing yoga, even though they have never been in a single yoga pose, let me explain. While attending a Yoga Nidra class with Beryl Bender Birch, she told us she is frequently asked if she practices yoga every day.  Her answer was perfect, "yes, I practice yoga every day, but I do not practice asana every day".  Asana (the poses) are just one of the 8 limbs of Patanjali's Yoga.  The other 7 limbs are all vital to a yoga practice!

1. Yamas (restraints)

   1. Ahimsa: nonviolence

   2. Satya: truthrulness

   3. Asteya: nonstealing

   4. Brahmacharya: countinence

   5. Aparigraha: noncovetousness

2. Niyamas (observances)

   1. Saucha: cleanliness

   2. Samtosa: contentment

   3. Tapas: heat, zeal, discipline

   4. Svadhyaya: Study of spiritual scriptures and self

   5. Isvara Pranidhana: surrender to God

3. Asana (yoga postures)  Through the practice of the physical postures of yoga, we develop discipline, focus, strength, ease, clarity, and balance our energy.  This is a good prep for daily life, or for a meditation practice.  It is not the only part of yoga.                             

4. Pranayama (breath control)  Literally translated as "life force extention", breath control is intimately connected to our nervous system.  Breath work provides a link between the breath, the mind, and the emotions.  I consider it to be vital, and begin each personal practice with a little bit of breath work.  I hear feedback from students that this is a helpful practice that they bring into their daily lives.               

5.  Pratyahara (withdrawl from the senses)  Moving our attention away from physical sensation allows us to focus inward.  According to Yoga International, "pratyahara exercises require concentration and the ability to focus on the inner sensory and energetic experiences of the body".  So you are not asleep, and you are not lost in your phone or your to do list.  Your mind has an inward focus.

6. Dharana (concentration)  During asana, our focus changes, during dharana, our attention falls on a single mental object.  This may be an image, a sound, or a specific energetic location in the body.  This practice can be considered the gateway to meditation.

7. Dhyana (meditation)  Durning meditation, there is an unwavering flow of concentration.  Medical science now supports the fact that meditation is a very beneficial practice on it's own.  Although my friend in Nepal meditates for 2.5 hours every day, you can start with as little as one or two 5 minute sessions and find a practice that works for you.

8. Samadhi (bliss)  When we experience samadhi, the mind is free from all distractions, and we experience inner consciousness & light.  You may wish to think of this as heaven, enlightenment, or just peace.

Boudhanath Sthupa - Kathmandu, Nepal

I may not have practiced asana every single day while I was in Nepal, but I did practice and observe yoga every day.  I observed practices and ways of life that will forever change the way I think.  I observed people facing extreme hardship with a smile and a shake of the head ("no problem" - just like in Jamaica).  If it was something they couldn't fix, they just faced it & moved on.  I observed women happily washing their clothes on a rock in a stream.  I was welcomed whole heartedly into people's homes, and allowed to interact with their children.  I observed the daily prayers of monks.  I walked with hundreds of dedicated people doing their daily meditative walks around the Boudhanath Sthupa, spinning prayer wheels and chanting Om Mani Padme Hum.  We witnessed people buying brass objects for honoring parents who had died and those people preparing for the festival.  The people of Nepal have impacted my practice off the mat in so many ways!

Don't get me wrong, I love asana practice.  My teaching style is rooted in physical alignment, strength, stability and self observance, but there is so much more to yoga.  If you don't manage to fit in any asana today, think like a Nepali, "no problem".  You can always practice a little meditation, or any combination of the 8 limbs.  They're all yoga (even Beryl Bender Birch thinks so).  

Namaste friends,

Beth

Lessons from Nepal #1 - Open Heart

My husband and I were walking along the lake in Pokhara, Nepal enjoying the views of nature, shops, and people that we saw along the way.  An elderly Nepali man was sitting near the path splitting wood with a handheld tool.  As our path crossed the area where he was working, I became fascinated and paused to see what he was doing.  "Eyes broken",  he questioned as he stopped working.  I was processing his intent and did not respond in words or expression.  A louder and angrier "eyes broken" met my silence.  You could feel the hostile energy as his eyes met mine.  We quickly continued along the path, and I was filled with fear.  At a week into our trip, this was our first day without our guide, and I longed for the ease that came with his guidance and friendship.  We were truly in another world.

Later in the streets near our hotel, we passed an elderly Nepali woman.  Her gray hair was pinned back, she was carrying a bright pink umbrella to shield herself from the afternoon sun, and was wearing a beautiful pink sari.  There was a beauty and grace about her, and I admit that I stared a bit too long.  My eyes met hers and I gave her my warmest smile.  She greeted us with a "namaste", and we returned the greeting.  After we passed, her friendly voice commented, "always smiling, never talking".  Her words stuck with me as we continued on our way.

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." - Rumi

We all hold some sort of barriers.  I believe that every interaction can be a lesson.  Both of these encounters point to some of my personal barriers.  Caution and reserve are my protective bubble, and they are driven by fear and shyness.  They are a barrier to experiencing love and friendship.  They can close relationships before they even start.  Would the man have responded differently if I had said, namaste, may I watch you work?  Maybe, and maybe not, but his words can be a lesson and a gift. 

I found most of the people in Nepal to be open, loving, kind and giving.  I have new friendships that I will treasure forever.  It is also glaringly obvious that as a personal practice, I must begin to enbrace these qualities.  My meditation, my yoga practice, and my daily life will focus on breaking down barriers and finding an open heart.  Very often, what you give is what you get.  Give what you seek, and it will return to you.

  "Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, 
and the life of the candle will not be shortened. 
Happiness never decreases by being shared." - Buddha

Happiness and love are contageous.  Take a few moments to ponder each of your interactions (even the negative ones).  They are a gift, and contain lessons that will help you find what you seek.  Each day, share a little more and watch the beauty that unfolds.

Namaste - Beth 

Yogo Mat Review #2 (after the trip)

The Yogo Ultralight Mat couldn't have been more perfect for my trip to Nepal.  It took me from my hotel balcony, to a rooftop class (that I ended up teaching), to a mountaintop at sunrise.  When you set out on this type of adventure, compact portability is a must.  I was not willing to compromise my daily yoga practice.  I was relieved to find the Yogo Ultralight Mat.  It has more features than I thought possible.  Here I'll list the things that I loved about the mat.

1. It fits neatly inside my bag, or clips conveniently to the outside of my backpack.   
2. The practice space is always clean because it folds in on itself.
3. It is sticky, I don't slide on it, and it does not slide on the floor.
4. It is very lightweight.
5. It washes easily in the shower, and can drip dry by hanging from it's own straps.

The list of cons is short, but worth mentioning.

1. It's slightly smaller than the average mat.  If you are a small yogi, you'll appreciate it, as this cuts down on weight and makes a compact fold.  The Ultra is available for those who require more space.
2. It is thin and doesn't offer much cushion (duh, it's a travel mat).  I did find myself placing my clean yogo mat on top of a studio mat that didn't appear sanitary.  Score - clean and cushioned!

Honestly, I'm looking for more ways to use this mat.  It would make a great Christmas Gift for the yogi on your list.  Here's a link to the company's website (or order it on amazon.com if you've got amazon prime).  It'd be great during a picnic, hike or run.  It can easily attach to several places on my bicycle, backpack, gym bag, suitcase, below a child's stroller, or in a desk.  Many happy hours of practice await me and my Yogo Ultralight Mat.  Happy practicing!

Namaste - Beth     

Washes easily in the shower and hangs to dry from it's own built in straps.

Even attaches to my bicycle!

Yogo Mat Review - A Different Travel Mat

I'm about to head to Nepal for more than 2 weeks with nothing more than the things I can carry on my back, not to total more than 15.4 pounds (plus a purse - plane restrictions) - Yikes!  Although  Mr.M8 was super supportive and tried to assure me that I could find adequate yoga and mat purchasing in the birthplace of the Buddha, I became completely obsessed with finding a mat that could be easily carried on my back without taking up too much of my precious weight limit.  

After tireless research of all of the big name companies, I still wasn't happy.  Luckily, I'm injury free, so I didn't really care about extra cushion.  I'm only 5'6 with a small to medium frame, so I didn't need a giant space.  I just wanted a light weight, compact, easily portable yoga mat to use while backpacking around a small asian country.  You'd think they'd be a dime a dozen, but none of the big companies stood out from the rest of the pack.

I'm a huge fan of amazon.com, and they didn't let me down this time.  I found the Yogo Mat with a handful of positive reviews, great features, and it seemed to be just what I was looking for.  Check out their ad below.

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These people understand what I want.  Lightweight, small, clean, foldable, eco friendly, sticky, and I can attach it to my purse or backpack with it's integrated straps.  Finally, someone seems to understand my needs!  When my mat arrived, it was everything that I wanted.  It is a little smaller than my normal mat, but there is a larger size available if that's what you need.  For me, the original mat was unbeatable!  

I'll let you know how this works when I'm done practicing yoga in the Himalayas!

Namaste - Beth

Shake up your Yoga Routine

Ever feel like your yoga routine has become a little too predictable?  Working with a new teacher, in a new space, or with a new group can really help.  I just returned from the Sukhava Bodhe Yoga & Music Festival in Illinois, where I tried many things that are not in my daily practice.  I left feeling strong, relaxed, and inspired.  Here are a few of my favorite finds from my trip.

1. Thai Massage - Although this wasn't my first Thai Massage Workshop, it was the very best way to start our day.  My friend, Katie and I learned how to incorporate massage, posture assists, and sitting (yes, sitting on people) as a way to reduce muscular tension.  Our concentration was upper back, but the leg sitting was fantastic.  Bonus for my husband and a few lucky coworkers, I need to practice if I'm going to maintain these new skills.
2. Acro Yoga - This was done in groups of 3, we rotated through being the flyer, the base, and the spotter.  We met a new friend from the Northwest, and quickly found out that we needed to trust each other and be there for one another.  We rotated through 3 poses, and we all really enjoyed the experience.  If you're looking for a yoga experience that includes strength, fun, and relationships, this is a great practice to try.  
3. SUP Yoga - Although I've done some paddling on my own and have an Ocean Yoga Board for indoor use, this was my first Standup Paddleboard Yoga Class.  My entire experience was without a doubt challenged by the man that was next to me.  It takes a whole new level of concentration to balance on an unstable surface knowing that someone 1 foot from you is about to fall into the water (again and again), and you're attached to a rope & can't escape him.  On a positive note, the experience made me keenly aware of the importance of my focal point (drishti), and that is something I'll be teaching in classes this week.        
4. Hip Flow - Since I've been teaching and taking a lot of alignment oriented Hatha classes with long holds, this was very different for me.  At this point in the day, we were on class number 5, and this class was a great way to end the day.
5. Restorative Yoga - OK, this one wasn't at the festival, but as someone who had avoided restorative yoga, this has become a new recent addition to my practice.  It's a great way to start a weekend, reduce stress, and relieve tension.  Why not shake things up by slowing down?
6. Yoga Rope Wall - This amazing tool can help you find core strength, new ways to access the same poses, practice alignment, and decompress the spine (with supported inversions).  Check out my class schedule to try it out.

While I don't suggest that you abandon your favorite class, studio, or teacher, I do suggest shaking up your routine every now and then.  Maybe you're lucky enough to hit a festival like I did.  If not, I'd encourage you to put something new into your yoga practice on a regular basis.  

Namaste - Beth

Guided Meditations

While I prefer a silent (or sometimes a mantra) meditation practice, many people who are beginners or those experiencing anxiety, stress, fear, insomnia or pain find a guided meditation extremely helpful.  It can be difficult to actually take the time to meditate, but the benefits are great.  Try to set up a regular schedule, and see my last post if you need a few tips on becoming a regular meditator.

Here are free downloadable guided meditations from Tara Brach.  I believe they are all about 20 minutes, although she also offers a 10 minute download if you sign up for her mailing list.  She is knowledgable, soothing, and will guide you through 20 minutes with ease. 

This is a 5 minute gratitude meditation with Elena Brower.  The video is 6 minutes long because she spends about a minute teaching you how to set up for meditation.  

A YouTube search will bring up a list of guided meditations, and there are also several meditation apps available on Itunes.  I've used one called Simply Being & it allows you to choose music, nature sounds, guided meditation, and meditation length.  This App puts a meditation easily within reach.  While it was free when I downloaded it, there is now a $1.99 charge, but this is a small price to pay for the rewards of meditation.  

If you have any questions, please ask, or see me at the studio.

Namaste - Beth

From Social Meditator to Daily Meditator

It is easy to say you'll become a daily meditator, but it is very challenging to actually do it.  I'll be the first to admit that I was a social meditator.  I'm defining social meditator as someone who will take group meditation classes, maybe even practice for about 2 weeks, then once you've missed one day, the practice is gone.  The good news is that in each day, in each moment, we can choose to begin again.  

Here are 6 steps to help you move from social meditator to someone with a solid daily practice.  This would work easily for any other habit you're looking to develop.

1. Start Small - You would not run a marathon without proper training, and you should not set meditation expectations that are too large.  You may try  2-5 minutes dailyto start.  You may choose once a day, you may choose twice a day.  Maybe mornings are crazy, but you can fit 5 minutes in at lunch or before you go to bed.  Once you are well established in your small start, you can build your practice from there.
2. Cue - Strong habits (good and bad) have cues that trigger behavior.   My cue has been feeding the pets.  They don't let me forget.  Once the pets have been fed (they have to be monitored or they share food), it is time to meditate.  
3. Routine - Structure is your friend when it comes to habit formation.  If you like a guided meditation, have your favorites readily available.  This is not the time to begin searching YouTube for a new mediation.  If you like to do a little reading first, keep your book in the space where you meditate.  If you like to do some light stretching first or head directly to silent meditation, do that.  Establish a routine that works, and stick with it.
4. Reward - The rewards of meditation itself are many, any no doubt that you've read about or experienced them for yourself.  It may be enough of a reward just to take a moment to enjoy the feeling after a meditation session.  If you need a more tangible reward, don't judge yourself.  You can meet yourself with kindness, and find a reward that works for you (plus you'll still have all of  the great mediatation benefits).  Maybe you wait to have that first sip of coffee or tea until after you meditate.
5. Share - Humans are social, and it is only natural that we benefit from sharing our experiences with others.  You may reach out to a meditation group or a friend who is either an established or beginning meditator.  Social media is a great resource when it comes to connecting with other people with similar goals.  My friends have started a small meditation group on facebook.  Click here for the link.
6. Non Judgement - Be kind to yourself.  If you miss a day, just begin again.  If you're running short on time, maybe you can squeeze in a fraction of your normal meditation time.  If it takes you a year or two to reach your goal (that may be 30 days straight or it may be 20 minute session), just be OK with working from where you are.

With consistent drive, compassion, and attention, you can move from social meditator (or non meditator) to someone who is enjoying the benefits of a strong daily practice.

Namaste - Beth